HAVE I MADE A POINT???

It’s no just charity but a whole lot of life skills that we learn or probably begins at home. I don’t know if what I am trying to say apply to the concept of feminism. I am not going into any of those details as that calls for perspective. One can defend one’s self only if they have the clarity of thought. What I scribble down may look outdated for some at least, but this is when I got the courage to pen down my thoughts which required a voice and in which I found delight. I am not someone who has found her life’s calling but believes that everything has been a blessing in this journey. I wanted to see how it would feel when, what I write comes in print. You get courage to write more only when you get recognized for your work. The slightest of the encouragement could keep the lamp burning. Even after rejections, if it is there in you, then what you see is the result, like how it has happened here.

It has been a copious deviation from what I intended to write today. My father is the sole breadwinner of the family and my mother, the homemaker. She is thus always at work taking care of us and everything and everyone at home. But our father is always there to help her in little ways possible. He may boast about the tempting egg roast he made years ago but he can survive wherever he goes and he has, for at least seven years owing to transfers. But when it comes to the question of survival everyone can do it on their own. But when there is someone to take care of everything, we let our survival skills rest in peace while the better half works with out rest.

 I still remember the roti and dal, aloo and puri he used to pack for my lunch for at least three months when my mother was in her house after my sister was born. He managed home well in the best possible way he could. It has not stopped with that, my father is still the go to person for kneading dough for rotis and when at home, he offers a hand to make them. His skills as a homemaker may just stay within the limits of the perfect rotis he make but he does it due to the understanding that the  ‘feminine’ home management is not an easy task. It works on different permutations and combinations, ratio and proportion, planning ahead and the ability to multitask. All these are acquired over time and anyone can. Homemaking is a life skill and not gender based by that I mean ‘feminine’. So there is nothing to be ashamed of if you do it and nothing to be proud of if you do not know how to make an omelet or clean the house.

Change will begin only when you put the right perspective at the right age through examples set in front of their eyes by the people they trust the most. So take the mop and make the difference.